All Real Winners Are Once a Loser

Self-Discovery for winners

All winners are not so perfect. They also have done mistakes in their life, but they learn to solve their mistake and got their success. You have obviously seen a good movie. Every scene and frame looks so perfectly framed and designed. But what do you think? Is that movie is a result of a single video shoot?

Certainly Not…!!

After many takes, multiple shots, Re-shoots, and editing we got a final picture that looks good on our screen. We never really know how much effort the whole team had made to make that awesome 2-hour movie to entertain us.
In the very same way, our life operates. Filled with many wrong decisions, Lose, Depressions, hopeless times, creating efforts, Getting success, and achieving our goals.

When looking for our own self-development we are often bombarded by slogans that claim to show us the ‘key to success’, or steps that can guarantee that we win in life no matter what it is we want. But, can we be winners and, more importantly, should we strive to be winners?

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Life is Tough for Winners too

Life is tough

From the moment you are born, taking your first breath, till the moment you die, taking your last. Life throws many obstacles, frustrations, and tragedies at us. And most of us feel powerless to prevent or avoid what is being thrown at us. It seems only natural and right to want to overcome these unpleasant events: to overcome them, to rid our lives of them, and to win.

When searching for the winning formula, we find many self-proclaimed experts who tell us that if we do as they have done we too, can be a successful winner like them. They claim that we only need a ‘key’ or a technique to acquire a winner’s mentality to rid ourselves of failure. And, for a fee, they’ll show us how!

Should We follow those Proclaimed Winners?

Self-Proclaimed Guru

It’s awfully tempting, especially when we see the lifestyle that these people claim to have; the big house, the flash car, the smart clothes, and the big cheesy grin. For these people life seems to be an ordered, mapped-out plan with success upon success, win after win. So, should we be striving to win everything, just like them? I think not.

When I look closely at one of these ‘winning gurus’, I can see that there is something about them that is missing. Sure, they have all the material possessions I don’t have. They have that look of confidence that I know I don’t have. 


Life is easy for them, whereas I find it a real struggle at times. That big, assured grin can’t hide what is missing; their humanity. A human being will and must experience failure and loss. The first step in being a successful human being is to accept this.

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Life can’t be planned and mapped out.

Life is unplanned

We can’t win everything we desire. We fool ourselves if we believe this, and we mislead others if we lecture it. “Life is chaotic”, “Life is unplanned”, and without rhyme or reason. There are uncountable times when we will lose. Being successful in life isn’t about winning all the time; it’s about losing, and how we deal with our loss.

If you’re serious about “self-development” then forget about winning and concentrate on losing. A loser can often be a more fulfilled and better person than someone who knows nothing but winning. You learn more about the human condition through loss than through winning.

The strongest, best people I have ever met have been the ones who have lost a great opportunity, and sometimes everything, but who have had the strength to accept their loss and still believed that life was something beautiful and worth living.

Life is Mysterious

Life is mysterious
Life is not the name of winning every time. Without losing we can’t get the taste and feel the excitement of winning. Only a starving person knows the value of food. In the same way, only a person who loses some time can feel and have experience of real winning.
Winning always‘ has no meaning in life. “Life is perfect when it has a combination of imperfect episodes“. Life becomes interesting with its ups and Downs. Always successful and winners can’t teach you experience and learnings you will get after losing.
Those who also tasted falling can give you and make you learn how to rise again and start from scratch. So, In my view learning from ‘Always a winner’ can’t give a real perspective of life. If you really want to learn and earn for your life you must meet someone who experienced the deepest point of loss.



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